Notes

• 🧠 Core Idea
• - Life is limited, and so is your time and energy — so choose carefully what to care about.
• - Happiness comes not from avoiding problems, but from choosing meaningful problems to solve.
• - “Not giving a f***” doesn’t mean being indifferent; it means being selective about your values.
• 💡 Key Concepts
• 1️⃣ Choose What to Give a F*** About
• - You can’t care about everything — most things don’t matter.
• - Focus your attention on what truly aligns with your values and purpose.
• - Stop wasting energy trying to please everyone.
• 2️⃣ Life is Full of Problems
• - Happiness is found in solving problems, not in having no problems.
• - Choose problems you enjoy working on.
• - Avoiding struggle leads to emptiness, not peace.
• 3️⃣ Responsibility Over Blame
• - Take full responsibility for your choices and reactions.
• - Even when things aren’t your fault, how you respond is still your responsibility.
• - Freedom comes from owning your decisions.
• 4️⃣ You Are Not Special
• - Modern culture glorifies constant positivity and uniqueness.
• - Accepting your ordinariness brings humility and peace.
• - Growth starts when you stop needing to be extraordinary.
• 5️⃣ The Value of Suffering
• - What you’re willing to suffer for defines what you truly value.
• Example: If you want to be fit, you must accept the pain of working out.
• - Real happiness comes from meaningful struggle.
• 6️⃣ Certainty is the Enemy
• - Embrace doubt and uncertainty — being wrong is how you learn.
• - People who are always “sure” often stay stuck in their beliefs.
• - True confidence is being comfortable with not knowing everything.
• 7️⃣ Rejection and Boundaries
• - Saying “no” is essential for living authentically.
• - Rejection helps define your boundaries and values.
• - Don’t fear rejection; it’s part of being honest and selective.
• 8️⃣ Death Gives Life Meaning
• - Remembering death helps clarify what truly matters.
• - When you face your mortality, you start living with intention.
• - “You will die someday” — so stop wasting your limited f***s.
• 🧩 Mindset Shifts
• - Stop chasing constant happiness — it’s impossible.
• - Failure, pain, and discomfort are necessary for growth.
• - Care deeply about fewer things that truly align with your values.
• - True freedom = caring less about external approval and more about personal meaning.
• 🏁 Key Takeaways
• - Life is short; don’t waste it on meaningless worries.
• - Happiness = solving meaningful problems, not avoiding them.
• - Responsibility > Blame.
• - You grow by accepting pain, uncertainty, and rejection.
• - Death gives urgency — live intentionally.